It's A Lot with Abbie Chatfield

CONTENT WARNING: This episode contains discussion of child sexual abuse. Help is available from the National Sexual Assault, Domestic Family Violence Counselling Service on 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732) and Lifeline on 13 11 14. Dissociative Identity Disorder (formerly Multiple Personality Disorder) has long been misrepresented and misunderstood, but Dr Jeni Haynes is here to change that. In 2019, she made international headlines when she testified against her father, who was the perpetrator of years of sexual, physical and psychological abuse upon her. It was the first time in the Australian legal system to accept testimony from alters within a person living with DID was accepted as evidence in a criminal prosecution. Since her landmark case, Jeni has co-authored a memoir, and is the subject of a new feature-length documentary 'We Are Jeni'. Abbie sits down with Dr Jeni to discuss why she still identifies with the term MPD (but disagrees with the disorder part), how her alters make decisions, and her journey from not being believed to finding justice. LINKS: ‘ We Are Jeni' is available to stream now on SBS On Demand . Follow Jeni on Instagram @drjenihaynes Follow Jeni on Facebook @jenihaynesarmy Buy Jeni's memoir The Girl In The Green Dress Find out more about We Are Jeni: https://www.wearejeni.com/ Send us your thoughts, topic suggestions, NMFs and more: https://forms.gle/S5Pf327SmVnnC8CE9 Check out @itsalotpod on IG at https://bit.ly/itsalot-instagram . Review the podcast on Apple Podcasts https://bit.ly/ial-review CREDITS Host : Abbie Chatfield @abbiechatfield Guest: Dr Jeni Haynes @drjenihaynes Executive Producer and Editor: Amy Kimball @amy.kimball It's A Lot Social Media Manager: Julia Toomey Social Media and Marketing Strategist: Elizabeth Baxter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We are so blessed to have one of the funniest (and smallest) women in the country on the pod for a NMF - it's MICHELLE BRASIER!!! Seat backs and tray tables up for an all-time tale that has to be heard to be believed! LINKS Vote 1 Michelle Brasier for the Silver Logie!! https://vote.tvweeklogies.com.au/ Follow Michelle on Instagram @michellebrasier Follow Michelle on TikTok @michellebrasier Buy Michelle's book: My Brother's Ashes Are In A Sandwich Bag Send us your thoughts, topic suggestions, NMFs and more: https://forms.gle/S5Pf327SmVnnC8CE9 Check out @itsalotpod on IG at https://bit.ly/itsalot-instagram . Review the podcast on Apple Podcasts https://bit.ly/ial-review CREDITS Host : Abbie Chatfield @abbiechatfield Guest: Michelle Brasier @michellebrasier Executive Producer and Editor: Amy Kimball @amy.kimball It's A Lot Social Media Manager: Julia Toomey Social Media and Marketing Strategist: Elizabeth Baxter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

UPDATE FROM ABBIE: "Please note I've gotten two new pieces of information since publishing this episode; The first is that I had seen screenshots of Nara Smith using #tradwife, but I have since been told they were not real thanks to a follower! Any references to this have now been edited out of the episode. I have also found out that she has previously posted videos of herself drinking raw milk while pregnant." (It is illegal to sell raw/unpasteurised milk for human consumption in Australia) Nara Smith's appearance on Call Her Daddy caused some arguments online about what she does or doesn't stand for. Abbie unpacks why Nara never was a trad-wife, why some women are rejecting the title, and talks about the real dangers that these videos cause. Abbie also introduces us to a new woman in the tradwife space she's obsessed with, but first, Abbie has had some epiphs about the weirdo men in the comments of Adam's videos... LINKS Send us your thoughts, topic suggestions, NMFs and more: https://forms.gle/S5Pf327SmVnnC8CE9 Check out @itsalotpod on IG at https://bit.ly/itsalot-instagram . Review the podcast on Apple Podcasts https://bit.ly/ial-review CREDITS Host : Abbie Chatfield @abbiechatfield Executive Producer and Editor: Amy Kimball @amy.kimball It's A Lot Social Media Manager: Julia Toomey Social Media and Marketing Strategist: Elizabeth Baxter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We were screaming SO loud at this NMF that Mr Walter got up to check we were okay #ally LINKS Send us your thoughts, topic suggestions, NMFs and more: https://forms.gle/S5Pf327SmVnnC8CE9 Check out @itsalotpod on IG at https://bit.ly/itsalot-instagram . Review the podcast on Apple Podcasts https://bit.ly/ial-review CREDITS Host : Abbie Chatfield @abbiechatfield Executive Producer and Editor: Amy Kimball @amy.kimball It's A Lot Social Media Manager: Julia Toomey Social Media and Marketing Strategist: Elizabeth Baxter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

CW: This episode contains discussions of mental ill-health, chronic illness, and suicidality. If this raises any issues for you help is available 24/7 via Lifeline at https://www.lifeline.org.au/ or by calling 13 11 14, as well as Beyond Blue at 1300 224 636 or https://www.beyondblue.org.au . At just 16 years old Lily Schubert got sick, eventually receiving a diagnosis of Myalgic Encephalomyelitis. She was forced to drop out of school and was bedbound for six years. Her condition worsened to the point that even small exposures to light, sound, or touch would cause severe crashes. As her symptoms started to improve, she started documenting her life on TikTok, with videos of her 'firsts' reaching millions of people around the world. Lily sits down with Abbie to talk about the reality of living with ME, what helped her get through her darkest days, and why she doesn't subscribe to the 'gratitude' narrative. LINKS Follow Lily on TikTok @lilygschubert Follow Lily on Instagram @lilygschubert Lily's website http://lilyschubert.com/ Read Lily's Substack https://substack.com/@lilyschubert See Abbie on tour https://linktr.ee/abbiechatfieldlovesmen Send us your thoughts, topic suggestions, NMFs and more: https://forms.gle/S5Pf327SmVnnC8CE9 Check out @itsalotpod on IG at https://bit.ly/itsalot-instagram . Review the podcast on Apple Podcasts https://bit.ly/ial-review CREDITS Host : Abbie Chatfield @abbiechatfield Guest: Lily Schubert @lilygschubert Executive Producer and Editor: Amy Kimball @amy.kimball It's A Lot Social Media Manager: Julia Toomey Social Media and Marketing Strategist: Elizabeth Baxter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Andrew and Tristan Tate were arrested in Florida last week, and are facing extradition to the UK to face 38 additional charges. The Tate brothers deny any wrongdoing. Abbie and Amy are breaking down what happens next, but not before a big long rant about why the discourse around reactions to the arrest is so cooked. LINKS See Abbie on tour! https://linktr.ee/abbiechatfieldlovesmen Send us your thoughts, topic suggestions, NMFs and more: https://forms.gle/S5Pf327SmVnnC8CE9 Check out @itsalotpod on IG at https://bit.ly/itsalot-instagram . Review the podcast on Apple Podcasts https://bit.ly/ial-review CREDITS Host : Abbie Chatfield @abbiechatfield Executive Producer and Editor: Amy Kimball @amy.kimball It's A Lot Social Media Manager: Julia Toomey Social Media and Marketing Strategist: Elizabeth Baxter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

CW: This episode contains mention of animal cruelty. This NMF had our jaws ON THE FLOOR!!! Still in shock tbh... This is why you never go to a party alone. LINKS See Abbie on tour! https://linktr.ee/abbiechatfieldlovesmen Send us your thoughts, topic suggestions, NMFs and more: https://forms.gle/S5Pf327SmVnnC8CE9 Check out @itsalotpod on IG at https://bit.ly/itsalot-instagram . Review the podcast on Apple Podcasts https://bit.ly/ial-review CREDITS Host : Abbie Chatfield @abbiechatfield Executive Producer and Editor: Amy Kimball @amy.kimball It's A Lot Social Media Manager: Julia Toomey Social Media and Marketing Strategist: Elizabeth Baxter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It's been a minute since Abbie's been on the mic solo, so it's time for a little life update, mental health check in, and Abbie randomly remembering she got in touch with someone from her past... NOTE: If any content in this episode raises issues for you, please remember that help is always available. Contact Lifeline on 13 11 14, or visit www.lifeline.org.au for 24/7 help. You can also contact Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636 or visit www.beyondblue.org.au . If you or anyone you know is in immediate danger, call 000. LINKS See Abbie on tour! https://linktr.ee/abbiechatfieldlovesmen Send us your thoughts, topic suggestions, NMFs and more: https://forms.gle/S5Pf327SmVnnC8CE9 Check out @itsalotpod on IG at https://bit.ly/itsalot-instagram . Review the podcast on Apple Podcasts https://bit.ly/ial-review CREDITS Host : Abbie Chatfield @abbiechatfield Executive Producer and Editor: Amy Kimball @amy.kimball It's A Lot Social Media Manager: Julia Toomey Social Media and Marketing Strategist: Elizabeth Baxter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It's our first Nightmare Fuel from our new Reddit page!! This group chat drama story's got everything with mentions of the 4B movement, looksmaxxing, birth rates and more... LINKS See Abbie on tour! https://linktr.ee/abbiechatfieldlovesmen Send us your thoughts, topic suggestions, NMFs and more: https://forms.gle/S5Pf327SmVnnC8CE9 Check out @itsalotpod on IG at https://bit.ly/itsalot-instagram . Review the podcast on Apple Podcasts https://bit.ly/ial-review CREDITS Host : Abbie Chatfield @abbiechatfield Executive Producer and Editor: Amy Kimball @amy.kimball It's A Lot Social Media Manager: Julia Toomey Social Media and Marketing Strategist: Elizabeth Baxter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Endometriosis awareness is higher than it's ever been, but why is there still so much that's missing from common knowledge?? Abbie sits down with Prof Jason Abbott, one of Australia's leading experts in endometriosis, pelvic pain, and menstrual disorders. They discuss uncommon endo symptoms, treatment, the latest research, and answer some of your burning questions about the condition. LINKS See Abbie on tour https://linktr.ee/abbiechatfieldlovesmen National Endometriosis Clinical and Scientific Trials Registry and Biorepository (NECST) - https://www.unsw.edu.au/research/necstnetwork/registry UNSW Ainsworth Endometriosis Research Institute (AERI) - https://www.unsw.edu.au/institutes/aeri Send us your thoughts, topic suggestions, NMFs and more: https://forms.gle/S5Pf327SmVnnC8CE9 Check out @itsalotpod on IG at https://bit.ly/itsalot-instagram . Review the podcast on Apple Podcasts https://bit.ly/ial-review CREDITS Host : Abbie Chatfield @abbiechatfield Guest: Professor Jason Abbott Executive Producer and Editor: Amy Kimball @amy.kimball It's A Lot Social Media Manager: Julia Toomey Social Media and Marketing Strategist: Elizabeth Baxter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We've got something a bit different for you! Instead of a Nightmare Fuel, Abbie and Aleks are unpacking an email from a chook who was after some advice about her relationship. LINKS See Abbie on tour https://linktr.ee/abbiechatfieldlovesmen Learn more about Aleks Trkulja https://linktr.ee/ThePleasureCentre Follow Aleks on IG @_thepleasurecentre Send us your thoughts, topic suggestions, NMFs and more: https://forms.gle/S5Pf327SmVnnC8CE9 Check out @itsalotpod on IG at https://bit.ly/itsalot-instagram . Review the podcast on Apple Podcasts https://bit.ly/ial-review CREDITS Host : Abbie Chatfield @abbiechatfield Guest: Aleks Trkulja @_thepleasurecentre Executive Producer and Editor: Amy Kimball @amy.kimball It's A Lot Social Media Manager: Julia Toomey Social Media and Marketing Strategist: Elizabeth Baxter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today we have not one but TWO amazing episodes with sex, relationship, body image and trauma therapist (AND Abbie's dear friend) Aleks Trkulja! In this ep Aleks will be talking all about TRAUMA BONDS! What are they? Does it always mean you're in an abusive relationship? What can you do to break the cycle? If this episode has raised any issues, please know that help is always available. You can contact 1800RESPECT on 1800 737 732 or visit 1800respect.org.au . Full Stop Australia also provides 24/7 support online at fullstop.org.au/ or by calling 1800 385 578. If you or anyone you know is in immediate danger, call 000. LINKS See Abbie on tour https://linktr.ee/abbiechatfieldlovesmen Learn more about Aleks Trkulja https://linktr.ee/ThePleasureCentre Follow Aleks on IG @_thepleasurecentre Send us your thoughts, topic suggestions, NMFs and more: https://forms.gle/S5Pf327SmVnnC8CE9 Check out @itsalotpod on IG at https://bit.ly/itsalot-instagram . Review the podcast on Apple Podcasts https://bit.ly/ial-review CREDITS Host : Abbie Chatfield @abbiechatfield Guest: Aleks Trkulja @_thepleasurecentre Executive Producer and Editor: Amy Kimball @amy.kimball It's A Lot Social Media Manager: Julia Toomey Social Media and Marketing Strategist: Elizabeth Baxter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today we have not one but TWO amazing episodes with sex, relationship, body image and trauma therapist (AND Abbie's dear friend) Aleks Trkulja! In this ep Aleks will be answering some of your burning questions about navigating different sex drives, unmasking during sex, and feeling embarrassed about initiating sex. LINKS See Abbie on tour https://linktr.ee/abbiechatfieldlovesmen Learn more about Aleks Trkulja https://linktr.ee/ThePleasureCentre Follow Aleks on IG @_thepleasurecentre Send us your thoughts, topic suggestions, NMFs and more: https://forms.gle/S5Pf327SmVnnC8CE9 Check out @itsalotpod on IG at https://bit.ly/itsalot-instagram . Review the podcast on Apple Podcasts https://bit.ly/ial-review CREDITS Host : Abbie Chatfield @abbiechatfield Guest: Aleks Trkulja @_thepleasurecentre Executive Producer and Editor: Amy Kimball @amy.kimball It's A Lot Social Media Manager: Julia Toomey Social Media and Marketing Strategist: Elizabeth Baxter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

A short and not-so-sweet horror story about a woman who just won't leave this chook and her family alone!! LINKS See Abbie on tour! https://linktr.ee/abbiechatfieldlovesmen Send us your thoughts, topic suggestions, NMFs and more: https://forms.gle/S5Pf327SmVnnC8CE9 Check out @itsalotpod on IG at https://bit.ly/itsalot-instagram . Review the podcast on Apple Podcasts https://bit.ly/ial-review CREDITS Host : Abbie Chatfield @abbiechatfield Executive Producer and Editor: Amy Kimball @amy.kimball It's A Lot Social Media Manager: Julia Toomey Social Media and Marketing Strategist: Elizabeth Baxter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It's the end of another financial year, and for many it's the opportunity to restart working on money resolutions. It's SO important for young people, and especially young women, to take control of their finances and feel empowered about their decisions!! But where do you start? Well, luckily we have money expert Jessica Brady here to chat through spending habits and goals, money in relationships, investing basics, and so much more!! LINKS Learn more about Jessica Brady https://courses.jessicabrady.com.au/work-with-jessica-brady-1 Follow Jess on IG @jessbrady_financialadvice See Abbie on tour https://linktr.ee/abbiechatfieldlovesmen Send us your thoughts, topic suggestions, NMFs and more: https://forms.gle/S5Pf327SmVnnC8CE9 Check out @itsalotpod on IG at https://bit.ly/itsalot-instagram . Review the podcast on Apple Podcasts https://bit.ly/ial-review CREDITS Host : Abbie Chatfield @abbiechatfield Guest: Jessica Brady @jessbrady_financialadvice Executive Producer and Editor: Amy Kimball @amy.kimball It's A Lot Social Media Manager: Julia Toomey Social Media and Marketing Strategist: Elizabeth Baxter Jessica Gerken (also known as Jessica Brady) is a money educator, former financial adviser, authorised representative (No. 1259972) of MoneySherpa Pty Ltd – AFSL 451289 | ABN 32 164 927 708 | Corporate Authorised Representative No. 1305567. All advice within this podcast is general advice only and does not take into account your personal objectives, situation or goals. Before acting on any information discussed within the podcast, you should read the product disclosure statement (PDS) and target market determination (TMD) before making any decisions about any specific financial products.Jessica Gerken (also known as Jessica Brady) is a money educator, former financial adviser, authorised representative (No. 1259972) of MoneySherpa Pty Ltd – AFSL 451289 | ABN 32 164 927 708 | Corporate Authorised Representative No. 1305567. All advice within this podcast is general advice only and does not take into account your personal objectives, situation or goals. Before acting on any information discussed within the podcast, you should read the product disclosure statement (PDS) and target market determination (TMD) before making any decisions about any specific financial products. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We love a self-aware chook who knows when she is both in the Nightmare Fuel but also causing a bit of it. Let's go lesbians!! LINKS See Abbie on tour! https://linktr.ee/abbiechatfieldlovesmen Send us your thoughts, topic suggestions, NMFs and more: https://forms.gle/S5Pf327SmVnnC8CE9 Check out @itsalotpod on IG at https://bit.ly/itsalot-instagram . Review the podcast on Apple Podcasts https://bit.ly/ial-review CREDITS Host : Abbie Chatfield @abbiechatfield Executive Producer and Editor: Amy Kimball @amy.kimball It's A Lot Social Media Manager: Julia Toomey Social Media and Marketing Strategist: Elizabeth Baxter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The good news is, Abbie handed in the first draft of her book!!!! The bad news is, right as the extra brain space has opened up, Pauline Hanson did a speech at the National Press Club so now we have to unpack that... LINKS See Abbie on tour https://linktr.ee/abbiechatfieldlovesmen Send us your thoughts, topic suggestions, NMFs and more: https://forms.gle/S5Pf327SmVnnC8CE9 Check out @itsalotpod on IG at https://bit.ly/itsalot-instagram . Review the podcast on Apple Podcasts https://bit.ly/ial-review CREDITS Host : Abbie Chatfield @abbiechatfield Executive Producer and Editor: Amy Kimball @amy.kimball It's A Lot Social Media Manager: Julia Toomey Social Media and Marketing Strategist: Elizabeth Baxter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The Jungle Giants frontman himself Sam Hales is in the studio!! Fresh off their hit new album, Sam made time to tell us some PEAK Nightmare Fuel stories with music legends aplenty. LINKS See The Jungle Giants on tour: https://www.thejunglegiants.com/tour-dates Listen to the album Experiencing Feelings of Joy https://orcd.co/experiencingfeelingsofjoy See Abbie on tour! https://linktr.ee/abbiechatfieldlovesmen Send us your thoughts, topic suggestions, NMFs and more: https://forms.gle/S5Pf327SmVnnC8CE9 Check out @itsalotpod on IG at https://bit.ly/itsalot-instagram . Review the podcast on Apple Podcasts https://bit.ly/ial-review CREDITS Host : Abbie Chatfield @abbiechatfield Guest: Sam Hales Executive Producer and Editor: Amy Kimball @amy.kimball It's A Lot Social Media Manager: Julia Toomey Social Media and Marketing Strategist: Elizabeth Baxter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, we discuss child sexual abuse, mental health issues, and sexual assault. If any of the topics discussed is triggering for you, please seek help by visiting Lifeline's website at https://www.lifeline.org.au/ or by calling 13 11 14. Since we last had Harrison James on the podcast, he's achieved sweeping legislative change with his #YourReferenceAintRelevant campaign. But it wasn't smooth sailing for Harri to go from living in survival mode to advocate and change-maker. In his new book Transform Your Pain Into Purpose , he gives you the guide he wish he had for handling trauma. He and Abbie discuss burnout, the double-edged sword of social media in advocacy, his 'second chance' at fatherhood, and why you don't need to do anything public with your trauma. LINKS Buy Harri's book Transform Your Pain Into Purpose : https://www.simonandschuster.com.au/books/Transform-Your-Pain-into-Purpose/Harrison-James/9781923293892 Listen to Bella Johnston's episodes: PART 1 , PART 2 See Abbie on tour this July!! https://linktr.ee/abbiechatfieldlovesmen Check out @itsalotpod on IG at https://bit.ly/itsalot-instagram . Review the podcast on Apple Podcasts https://bit.ly/ial-review CREDITS Host : Abbie Chatfield @abbiechatfield Guest: Harrison James @itsharrijames Executive Producer and Editor: Amy Kimball @amy.kimball It's A Lot Social Media Manager: Julia Toomey Social Media and Marketing Strategist: Elizabeth Baxter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We've had office drama, now it's time for some teacher drama! This chook takes us through some wild stories from her Christian high school and we're so happy to be along for the ride. LINKS See Abbie on tour https://linktr.ee/abbiechatfieldlovesmen Send us your thoughts, topic suggestions, NMFs and more: https://forms.gle/S5Pf327SmVnnC8CE9 Check out @itsalotpod on IG at https://bit.ly/itsalot-instagram . Review the podcast on Apple Podcasts https://bit.ly/ial-review CREDITS Host : Abbie Chatfield @abbiechatfield Executive Producer and Editor: Amy Kimball @amy.kimball It's A Lot Social Media Manager: Julia Toomey Social Media and Marketing Strategist: Elizabeth Baxter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.