We're Out of Time

<p>Some people survive adversity. Nick Lavery went back for more.</p><p>Richard Taite sits down with Chief Warrant Officer Nick Lavery, an active-duty Green Beret, Silver Star recipient, and the first above-the-knee amputee in history to return to combat with a U.S. Army Special Forces team. After losing his leg in Afghanistan in 2013 during the most catastrophic insider attack of the Global War on Terror, Nick refused a medical retirement, spent a year recovering at Walter Reed, passed a grueling 15-week assessment, and deployed back to Afghanistan for full-spectrum combat operations.</p><p>Nick and Richard talk about rebuilding identity after loss, how faith carried him through recovery, why veterans struggle to ask for help, the double edge of the warrior mindset, and what he learned from losing nearly a dozen brothers in combat — and three times that number outside of it. Nick also opens up about retiring after 20 years of service, the identity crisis that follows when the uniform comes off, and building his next chapter through MCHN, the human performance company he founded.</p><p>Nick is the founder of MCHN, CEO of Precision Components LLC, and bestselling author of Objective Secure: The Battle-Tested Guide to Goal Achievement.</p><p>Richard Taite is one of the foremost experts on addiction in the United States. He lost 25 years to addiction before achieving 21 years of sobriety — an experience that drives his work helping others through it.</p><p>“We’re Out Of Time” dives into the issues America can’t afford to ignore — addiction, mental health, parenting, resilience, and hope. Raw truth, real stories, life-saving conversations.</p><p>Learn more about Nick Lavery: <a href="https://mchn.co/" target="_blank">https://mchn.co/</a> & <a href="https://www.precisioncomponentsllc.com/" target="_blank">https://www.precisioncomponentsllc.com/</a></p><p>More on Richard Taite and Carrara Treatment Wellness & Spa: <a href="https://linktr.ee/richardtaite" target="_blank">https://linktr.ee/richardtaite</a></p><p><a href="https://www.wereoutoftime.com/" target="_blank">https://www.wereoutoftime.com/</a></p>

<p>Nobody warns you how hard stepfamily life really is. And almost nobody teaches you how to do it well.</p><p>Richard Taite sits down with Dr. Patricia Papernow, one of the world's leading experts on stepfamily dynamics and author of <em>Surviving and Thriving in Stepfamily Relationships</em>, for an honest, research-backed conversation about why blended families struggle — and what actually works.</p><p>Dr. Papernow breaks down the five structural challenges every stepfamily faces, what loyalty binds do to kids caught between parents, why disciplining too early backfires, and why "connection before correction" is the most important principle any stepparent can follow. Richard opens up about his own experience and the two have a candid, sometimes funny conversation about what kids need — and why the gap between that and what stepparents need is where most blended families break down.</p><p>👉 Subscribe for raw, honest, and inspiring conversations —new episodes every week. 🔗 Explore more about Richard Taite, We’re Out of Time, and Carrara Treatment Wellness & Spa: ⁠⁠⁠https://linktr.ee/richardtaite⁠🔗 Learn more about Dr. Papernow: https://stepfamilyrelationships.com/</p>

<p>What does it mean to be Ethiopian, Israeli, and American — all at once?</p><p>Richard Taite sits down with Tali Aynalem, a former IDF soldier, Ethiopian Israeli American writer, and social media influencer whose videos about Jewish identity, Israel, and history have reached millions.</p><p>Tali shares her remarkable story: growing up in Israel, moving to Oregon at age 10, serving in the IDF as an admin worker with the Givati Brigade combat unit stationed along the Gaza Strip, Golan Heights, and Judea and Samaria, and returning to the United States — before October 7th changed everything.</p><p>She and Richard discuss what it felt like to lose close friends overnight to ideology, why she finally decided to speak out, how she stays optimistic in a climate of rising antisemitism, and what she believes the world gets wrong about Israel and Jewish identity.</p><p>Tali also opens up about her new Substack, her decision to date exclusively within the Jewish community, and why she believes being Jewish — proudly, openly, and without apology — is the only answer to the moment we're in.</p><p>Follow Tali Aynalem on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/taliaynalem/?hl=en" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">Instagram</a> and subscribe to her <a href="https://taliaynalem.substack.com/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">Substack </a>for weekly essays on Jewish identity, history, and culture.</p><p>New episodes of We're Out of Time drop every Tuesday on YouTube, Spotify, and Apple Podcasts.</p>

<p>What if you looked completely successful on the outside—but were silently suffering on the inside?</p><p>Clinical psychologist, bestselling author, and TEDx speaker Dr. Margaret Rutherford joins Richard Taite to explore one of the most overlooked mental health challenges of our time: Perfectly Hidden Depression.</p><p>Together, they discuss why high-achieving people often hide emotional pain behind perfectionism, how toxic positivity keeps people from healing, and what emotional transparency really looks like. Richard also shares his own recovery journey and what it took to stop hiding behind success.</p><p>Dr. Rutherford is the author of <em>Perfectly Hidden Depression</em> and the companion workbook. Her TEDx talk, <em>How to Recognize Perfectly Hidden Depression</em>, has been viewed more than 2 million times.</p><p>Learn more about Dr. Margaret Rutherford: <a href="https://drmargaretrutherford.com" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">https://drmargaretrutherford.com</a></p><p>Explore more from Richard Taite and <em>We're Out of Time</em>: <a href="https://linktr.ee/richardtaite" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">https://linktr.ee/richardtaite</a></p>

<p>On this episode of We're Out of Time, host Richard Taite sits down with Dr. Alex Howard, internationally recognized trauma therapist, author, and founder of the Optimum Health Clinic, for a raw, deeply personal conversation about childhood trauma, emotional neglect, and the long road to healing.<p><br /></p>Dr. Howard opens up about his own teenage years living with a debilitating chronic illness, the conversation with his uncle that changed the trajectory of his life, and how that experience shaped two decades of work helping people heal from trauma and nervous system patterns. </p><p><br /></p><p>Richard and Alex dig into the difference between the trauma that happened to us and the patterns we built to survive it, why "it's not your fault" doesn't mean "it's not your responsibility," and how even loving, well-meaning parents can leave emotional needs unmet.The conversation moves through both men's complicated relationships with their own fathers, what it means to parent differently than you were parented, and how healing as an adult means learning to give yourself what you didn't receive as a child.</p><p><br /></p><p>Dr. Howard is the author of It's Not Your Fault: Why Childhood Trauma Shapes You and How to Break Free, and his work has reached millions through his books, online programs, and his YouTube series In Therapy with Dr. Alex Howard, where he films real therapeutic sessions. </p><p><br /></p><p>Learn more about at alexhoward.com.If someone you know is dealing with life's hardest challenges, share this episode — the right conversation at the right time can change everything.</p>

<p><strong>Could medications originally developed for diabetes and weight loss help transform addiction treatment? </strong></p><p>In this episode of We’re Out of Time, host Richard Taite sits down with addiction medicine pioneer Dr. Mark Gold, widely regarded as one of the founding figures of modern addiction medicine. For more than five decades, Dr. Gold has helped shape the scientific understanding of addiction, cravings, dopamine, withdrawal, and recovery, with groundbreaking research that has influenced treatment approaches around the world.</p><p><br></p><p>Together, they explore the growing interest in GLP-1 medications, and why many researchers believe they could represent a major breakthrough in treating substance use disorders. Dr. Gold explains the science behind cravings, the gut-brain connection, food addiction, alcohol use disorder, cannabis use disorder, and how GLP-1s may help reduce compulsive behaviors.</p><p><br></p><p>Richard also shares observations from Carrara Treatment Wellness & Spa after integrating GLP-1 medications into treatment for over three years, including an early finding that approximately 80% of participating patients have not relapsed. Dr. Gold helps place those observations into scientific context while emphasizing the need for continued research.</p><p><br></p><p>The conversation also tackles one of the biggest questions surrounding GLP-1s: Should people stay on them long term? Dr. Gold offers a candid perspective on what researchers know, what they don’t know, and where the science is headed next.If you’re interested in addiction recovery, neuroscience, GLP-1 medications, cravings, and the future of addiction treatment, this episode offers a fascinating look at one of the most promising developments in the field today.</p><p><br></p><p>If you’re interested in addiction recovery, neuroscience, GLP-1 medications, cravings, and the future of addiction treatment, this episode offers a fascinating look at one of the most promising developments in the field today.</p>

<p><strong>What actually helps people recover from addiction?</strong>In this powerful episode of We're Out of Time, Richard Taite sits down with NY Times bestselling author, journalist, and leading voice in addiction science Maia Szalavitz to explore recovery, trauma, harm reduction, and the role of compassion in healing.Drawing from both personal experience and decades of research, Maia challenges common assumptions about addiction and explains why shame, punishment, and stigma so often fail to create lasting change.</p><p><strong>This episode covers:</strong> </p><p>• Maia's journey from addiction to recovery and becoming one of today's most important addiction author </p><p>• Why addiction is often rooted in pain, trauma, and disconnection </p><p>• The debate around harm reduction approaches </p><p>• Why compassion may be more effective than punishment </p><p>• What actually helps people get — and stay — better </p><p>• The future of addiction policy and care</p><p>At the heart of it all, this is a conversation about why these approaches matter and creating more paths to recovery.</p>

<p>On this episode of We're Out of Time, host Richard Taite and guest co-host Patricia Freebery, LMFT, Executive Clinical of Carrara Treatment Wellness & Spa, sits down with renowned psychiatrist, bestselling author, and interpersonal neurobiology pioneer Dr. Daniel Siegel for a wide-ranging conversation on human connection, consciousness, relationships, and the future of mental health. Drawing from decades of research, Dr. Siegel discusses how modern culture, social media, and emerging technologies are shaping the way people connect with themselves and one another. He explores the role of awareness, integration, and relationships in overall well-being, while sharing insights from neuroscience, psychology, and human development.The conversation also examines the rise of artificial intelligence and the growing trend of young people forming relationships with AI companions. Dr. Siegel offers his perspective on how technology may influence human connection, emotional development, and social interaction in the years ahead. In one of the episode's most memorable moments, Dr. Siegel reflects on a near-fatal accident in his youth that temporarily altered his sense of identity and ultimately influenced his lifelong exploration of consciousness, awareness, and the mind. From neuroscience and relationships to AI, identity, and the nature of human connection, this conversation offers a fascinating look at some of the most important questions shaping modern life.</p>

<p>On this episode of We’re Out of Time, US Army veteran Toni Lavery joins host Richard Taite to discuss her journey through military service, motherhood, and a life-changing health challenge. After serving for over two decades, Tony shares how she is navigating her identity transition and leading the first all-women commemorative jump into Normandy for the 82nd anniversary of D-Day. </p><p>In this episode, Tony highlights the importance of advocating for one’s own health while managing vision loss and explains how the Fox Force Foundation is building a vital community for women veterans to find mentorship through shared resilience. The conversation also covers strategies for managing stress, prioritizing family wellness, and maintaining a strong partnership while both spouses serve.</p>

<p>In this episode of We’re Out Of Time, we sit down with Dr. Drew Ramsey — psychiatrist, mental health advocate, and leading voice in nutritional psychiatry — to unpack what’s really happening to our brains in the modern world.<br>From the connection between food and mental health to the growing mental health crisis impacting millions, Dr. Ramsey explains why brain health is the foundation of emotional wellness. Together, we explore how nutrition, environment, relationships, biology, and lifestyle all shape the way we think, feel, and heal.<br>This conversation goes beyond traditional discussions about mental illness and recovery, offering practical insight into building “mental fitness” before things fall apart. Dr. Ramsey shares why the modern brain faces challenges unlike ever before — and what science says we can do to protect it.<br>If you’ve ever wondered how stress, diet, isolation, and everyday habits impact your mental well-being, this episode is packed with eye-opening perspective and actionable takeaways.</p>

<p>In this episode of We’re Out Of Time, Richard Taite sits down with world-renowned psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Bruce Perry for a powerful conversation about childhood trauma, addiction, healing, and the lifelong impact of early experiences. Dr. Perry, co-author of “What Happened to You?” with Oprah Winfrey and “The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog,” shares how the brain develops in childhood and why our earliest relationships shape the way we think, react, connect, and cope as adults.</p><p>Together, Richard and Dr. Perry explore how trauma alters the developing brain, why addiction is often rooted in unresolved pain, and how healing begins with safety, regulation, and human connection. They discuss the growing “relational poverty” in today’s world, the effects of social media and disconnection, and why routines, movement, community, and meaningful relationships are essential for emotional well-being.</p><p>Throughout the episode, Richard opens up about his own experiences working in addiction treatment and reflects on the emotional toll of helping people heal. The conversation is raw, insightful, and deeply human, offering a new perspective on trauma, recovery, parenting, mental health, and resilience.</p>

<p>On this episode of We’re Out Of Time, Richard Taite sits down with sports and performance psychologist Dr. Mark Aoyagi to explore what truly separates elite performers from everyone else. From Olympic athletes to professional sports teams, Dr. Aoyagi has spent years helping high performers build confidence, resilience, and mental strength under pressure.<br>Together, they break down the psychology behind flow state, choking under pressure, fear of failure, confidence vs arrogance, and the mindset shifts that help people perform at their highest level. They also dive into the surprising overlap between elite athletes and addiction, explaining why perfectionism, anxiety, and obsession can drive both peak performance and self-destruction.<br>This conversation goes beyond sports — it’s about identity, purpose, pressure, and what happens when your self-worth becomes tied to performance.</p>

<p>On this episode of <em>We’re Out of Time</em>, Sonia Kahlon — co-host of <em>Sisters in Sobriety</em> — shares her journey from high-achieving orthodontist to living alcohol-free.<br>What started as “normal” drinking in a high-pressure, hustle-driven lifestyle slowly turned into nightly dependence. Sonia opens up about the moment everything shifted — including her first day without alcohol in over a decade — and what it actually takes to stay sober.<br>The conversation dives into the stigma professionals face around addiction, why AA isn’t the only path to recovery, and how drinking culture is deeply normalized — especially for women. Sonia also shares the shocking story of discovering her husband’s affair and how sobriety forced her to face it without numbing out.<br>This episode explores the rise of “sober curious” culture, the hidden cost of coping through alcohol, and what it really takes to become the person you were meant to be.</p>

<p>In this episode of We’re Out Of Time, host Richard Taite sits down with creator and DJ Shahrukh Pithawalla to pull back the curtain on the modern creator economy. They dive deep into why chasing viral fame is often a trap and how building a slow, authentic community is the only way to survive online.</p>

<p>On this episode of We’re Out of Time, host Richard Taite is joined by ADHD coach and advocate Jheri South to break down how ADHD shows up far beyond attention and focus. Jheri explains how emotional dysregulation, rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD), and impulsivity shape everyday life, relationships, parenting, and even addiction risk.<br>The conversation begins with RSD, or rejection sensitive dysphoria, which affects an estimated 99% of people with ADHD. Jheri explains how perceived rejection can trigger intense emotional spirals that feel physically and emotionally overwhelming, often leading to conflict in romantic relationships, work environments, and family dynamics.<br>Richard and Jheri explore how ADHDers can misinterpret neutral situations as personal rejection, leading to impulsive reactions, shame, and difficulty regulating emotions. Jheri emphasizes that ADHD is less about attention and more about emotional regulation, identity, and belief systems.<br>They discuss practical tools, including identifying triggers, learning to pause before reacting, and recognizing “episodes” of emotional dysregulation. Jheri also shares five key drivers that engage the ADHD brain: interest, urgency, challenge/competition, novelty, and rivalry.<br>The conversation expands into relationships, where communication differences, especially between ADHD and autism, can lead to misunderstandings and shutdown cycles. Jheri explains how shifting from blame to understanding communication styles can transform relationships.<br>They also address ADHD and addiction risk, noting that individuals with ADHD are 3–4x more likely to struggle with substance use due to dopamine-seeking behavior when untreated.<br>In parenting, Jheri shares how separating connection time from correction, avoiding escalation during emotional episodes, and building emotional safety can dramatically improve outcomes for children with ADHD and RSD.<br>Ultimately, Jheri reframes ADHD not as a deficit, but as a neurodivergent wiring that, when understood and regulated, can become a powerful strength in life, relationships, and success.</p>

<p>On this episode of We’re Out Of Time, Richard Taite sits down with world-renowned happiness expert Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky to break down the biggest myths about happiness—and why so many people feel unloved, even when they are.</p><p>Dr. Lyubomirsky reveals the science behind what actually creates lasting happiness, why money can make you happy (but only to a point), and the surprising reason connection—not success—is what truly fulfills us.</p><p>They dive deep into the psychology of love: why most people struggle to feel it, how your conversations shape your relationships, and the simple mindset shifts that can create immediate change. From radical curiosity to vulnerability, this episode is a masterclass in how to build deeper, more meaningful connections.</p><p>If you’ve ever felt unseen, disconnected, or like something is missing—this conversation will change the way you think about love, happiness, and the people in your life.</p>

<p>On this episode of We’re Out Of Time, host Richard Taite sits down with actor and decorated Marine veteran Maurice P. Kerry for a raw and deeply personal conversation about survival, identity, and transformation after war.Maurice opens up about the harsh realities of combat during Operation Iraqi Freedom and the mindset that kept him alive—“complacency kills.” But the battle didn’t end overseas. From being cheated on while serving his country to returning home and facing homelessness, Maurice shares the unseen struggles many veterans endure when transitioning back to civilian life.He speaks candidly about PTSD, not as a weakness, but as something he’s learned to harness, and reflects on how the Marine Corps ultimately saved him from a very different path. Now, as an actor on CBS’ Beyond The Gates, Maurice is using his platform to tell stories that matter and bring respect back to those who serve.This episode also dives into his personal life—being born from an affair, feeling unwanted, and raising his child as a single father for 16 years—all while navigating purpose, discipline, and growth. Maurice’s story is one of resilience, accountability, and redefining what it means to survive—and truly live.</p>

<p>On this episode of We're Out Of Time, Richard Taite sits down with psychologist and bestselling author Dr. Guy Winch to explore why emotional pain is one of the most overlooked — and dangerous — forces in human life.<br>Dr. Winch breaks down the science of emotional first aid, explaining why we treat physical injuries with urgency but leave emotional wounds to fester until they quietly destroy our confidence, our relationships, and our health. He reveals why burnout is now killing hundreds of thousands of people a year, why loneliness is far more psychologically damaging than most people realize, and why the brain responds to heartbreak in ways that are strikingly similar to heroin withdrawal.<br>Richard gets personal in this one — sharing his own experience with rejection and love addiction — and Dr. Winch walks him through exactly what's happening psychologically and what to do about it. The two also dig into why so many people unknowingly turn to addictive behaviors to cope with emotional pain they've never properly addressed, and why failure — if left unexamined — can quietly redirect the entire course of someone's life.<br>This episode is packed with practical, immediately usable tools anyone can apply today — from a daily gratitude practice that actually works to understanding the difference between waiting out heartbreak and actively healing from it. Dr. Winch doesn't just explain what's wrong. He tells you what to do about it.</p>

<p>On this episode of We’re Out Of Time, Richard Taite sits down with legendary comedian, actor, and activist Margaret Cho for a raw and unfiltered conversation about addiction, relapse, and survival.</p><p>Margaret opens up about her decades-long journey with substance abuse, including relapsing after seven years of sobriety and the dangerous mindset that can come with addiction. She speaks candidly about the realities of drug use, the dark humor that often surrounds it, and why so many comedians struggle with substance abuse behind the scenes.</p><p>The two also explore the connection between comedy and neurodivergence, the loneliness of life on the road, and how the industry can unintentionally fuel addictive behaviors. Margaret shares her perspective on modern culture, navigating outrage in comedy, and how she continues to push boundaries while staying authentic to herself.</p><p>They also dive into emerging conversations around GLP-1 medications and their potential role in impulse control, as well as Margaret’s personal experience using them to manage binge eating disorder.</p><p>In the end, Margaret reflects on what she’s most proud of today—and it’s not the fame or success. It’s the fact that she’s still here. Margaret Cho’s story is a powerful reminder that survival itself can be the greatest accomplishment. </p>

<p>On this episode of We’re Out Of Time, host Richard Taite sits down with COVID survivor Gregg Garfield to share one of the most extraordinary survival stories from the early days of the COVID-19 pandemic.<br>Gregg recounts the moment everything changed while on a ski trip in the Italian Alps—when a warning call from his girlfriend first mentioned a mysterious virus spreading through Europe. Within days, flu-like symptoms spread through the group, and soon after returning to Los Angeles, Gregg tested positive. At the time, hospitals were unprepared for the virus, and he became the first COVID patient admitted to Providence St. Joseph Hospital in Burbank.<br>Doctors told Gregg he had only a 1% chance of survival. After being placed into a medically induced coma and spending 31 days on a ventilator, he endured a cascade of life-threatening complications including sepsis, collapsed lungs, blood clots, and organ failure. Gregg flatlined multiple times and says doctors still cannot explain why he survived.<br>When he finally woke up, the battle was far from over. Gregg had lost most of his fingers and several toes due to the life-saving treatments that kept blood flowing to his vital organs. He had to relearn how to walk, eat, and rebuild muscle after losing over 50 pounds during his hospitalization.<br>Through the darkest moments, Gregg credits the strength of his “village”—friends, family, and his partner AJ—for giving him the motivation to fight through recovery. With the support of hundreds of loved ones rallying around him, Gregg set small, achievable goals that eventually led to an incredible milestone: getting back on skis the very same year he nearly died.<br>Today, Gregg channels his second chance at life into purpose-driven work through Gregg’s Village and ChipIn, initiatives dedicated to supporting nonprofits and building community through giving.<br>This powerful conversation explores resilience, mindset, gratitude, and the life-changing realization that the people around you can make all the difference when the unthinkable happens.</p>